Two ways of sharing information

There are two ways of sharing information:

1. Telling it like it is.
This means focusing on a precise, objective description of the subject and not caring so much about peoples' reactions.

This is not a very common way, but I think in most situations it's the best way and I try to use it as often as possible.

2. "Talking to the belief system".
This means the opposite. Not caring so much about sticking to the facts and trying to make a desired impression, influence peoples' behavior, or to outmaneuver some beliefs.

This is a much more common way of sharing information. For example, most news in media is delivered this way. I don't like this way and I use it only when I have to.

Let's say you've got a problem, but you don't accept the fact that you've got this problem. What you need to do, is to accept that you've got this problem and then solve it. This is what "telling it like it is" looks like.
Most spiritual teachers or motivational speakers don't do it this way. They realized that people tend to push against the unwanted. If they told people to stop pushing against what they don't want, people would push against pushing against. This would create even more tension and suffering. That's why a big part of spiritual teachings is about tricking the belief system to outmaneuver this mechanism.

Instead of telling: "Accept that you have a problem, but not in a passive way. Accepting doesn't mean giving up. It just means not denying it. Then find a way to solve this problem.",
spiritual teachers are telling something like: "Don't try to get there, because here is already there. You're always healing, but you are already healed.".
This is just a trick to release some tension. This is talking to the belief system.

Of course, you can mix those two ways. It doesn't have to be this or that.


Another interesting thing, loosely connected to this topic is the idea, that you can discern whether or not something is true, by trusting your feelings. "Trust your gut." "Accept only the things that resonate with you."
By doing that you can only find out if this information is compatible with your belief system. Discerning what is true is not that easy. There's no simple tool to know what is true. Sometimes it requires investigation. In some cases, we'll never know the truth.
Thinking that you can just feel what is true is naive. It leads to creating a comfortable belief system, that has little to do with reality.
How the truth feels like? There's no rule for that. Sometimes it feels great. But sometimes it is shocking and outrageous. Sometimes it has this crazy "I would've never come up with something like this" feeling to it.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MRcDZmBrdKw